Better Than Sex Cake

No, I did not name this recipe.  It’s an old Southern recipe that consists of moist yellow cake soaked in pineapple syrup, topped with whipped cream and coconut.  I updated the recipe to include rum, and I used coconut oil because I think the extra coconut flavor makes this better than better than sex cake.  If you’re looking for a coconut oil to try, can I recommend Kelapo brand?  They sent me the most lovely little jar of the stuff and I can’t get enough.  However, you may also make this cake with all butter, as it is simply my lemon layer cake recipe minus the lemon juice and zest.

I had a lot of fun searching through my old church cookbooks finding variations of this cake, all with more G-rated names.  I found:  Heavenly Delight, Pineapple Coconut Sin cake, Good (no, GREAT) Pineapple Cake, BTS cake (no explanation for the acronym), Special Pina Colada Cake, and Best Cake To Make.  Feel free to use any of these alternate names when serving this cake, especially to in-laws.

5.0 from 4 reviews
Better Than Sex Cake
Makes 1 small 6" cake.
For the cake:
  • ¼ cup solid coconut oil
  • 2 tablespoons unsalted butter, softened
  • ½ cup sugar
  • 1 large egg
  • ⅛ teaspoon rum (or almond) extract
  • ¾ cup flour
  • ⅛ teaspoon salt
  • ¼ teaspoon baking powder
  • ¼ cup buttermilk
For the topping & frosting:
  • 8 oz. can of crushed pineapple (packed in 100% pineapple juice)
  • ¼ cup brown sugar
  • ⅓ cup sweetened flaked coconut
  • ½ cup heavy whipping cream
  • 1 teaspoon dark rum
  • 2 tablespoons powdered sugar
  1. First, preheat the oven to 350 and grease a 6” round cake pan.
  2. In a medium bowl, beat together with an electric mixer the coconut oil, butter and sugar. Beat this mixture very well, until light and fluffy (1-2 minutes).
  3. Add the rum extract followed by the egg and beat another 10 seconds.
  4. Stir together the flour, salt and baking powder in a small bowl.
  5. Add half of the dry mixture to the coconut oil mixture, beat slightly before adding half of the buttermilk. Repeat with the remaining dry and wet ingredients.
  6. Pour the batter into the cake pan, smoothing the top before baking on a baking sheet for 30-35 minutes. Use a toothpick to ensure it's done, but do not overbake or the cake will dry out. Let the cake cool on a wire rack.
  7. About 10 minutes before the cake will be done, add the crushed pineapple and brown sugar to a small saucepan and bring to a boil over medium heat. Let simmer until slightly thickened (1-2 minutes), then remove the pan from the heat to cool slightly.
  8. Once the cake has cooled for 5 minutes, poke holes all over the surface with a toothpick before slowly pouring the pineapple syrup on top. Let cool completely before making the frosting.
  9. While waiting for the cake to cool, toast the coconut in the oven or in a pan over low heat while stirring constantly. When the coconut is a light, toasty brown, remove it from heat—it will crisp as it cools.
  10. Once you're ready to serve the cake, beat together heavy whipping cream, rum and powdered sugar either by hand with a large whisk or with an electric mixer. Taste for sweetness and add more powdered sugar if desired. Frost the cake and sprinkle toasted coconut on top. Slice and serve.


  1. says

    So my question is…is better than better than sex cake called tantric sex cake?! Sorry, I thought that was funny. Really cute post!!! I think my fellow employees would love this so I’ll have to give it a whirl.

  2. says

    I JUST made this as cupcakes* and a slight variation on the topping …added the coconut to the brown sugar/pineapple “syrup” at the last minute and then fresh whipped cream for the eatin’ – yum!

    *I made cupcakes because I don’t have a 6 inch cake pan yet…

  3. says

    There’s a restaurant here that’s named Better Than Sex Cake Cafe. This is the cake they serve. They make delicious quiches too, but those don’t have such risque names.

    My family makes a “better than sex cake” but it’s a chocolate cake with all sorts of deliciously naughty things poured over top. This combo sounds great!

  4. rileysmom says

    hmmm, we just had “Better than Sex” cake at a 4th of July picnic. Here in MT, it was made with a chocolate cake, butterscotch/caramel sauce/whipped cream/toffee bits.
    I’ve never had your version while living in TN….. I’ll have to make your recipe to compare……

  5. says

    Hmm, this is interesting. I have an old recipe for Better Than Sex Cake from my mom’s recipe box. It is a lot different though and uses a chocolate cake mix that is poked across the top, drizzled with Hershey’s chocolate syrup, then topped with cool whip, more drizzles of chocolate syrup, caramel syrup, and then sprinkled with crushed Skor or Heath bars and toasted coconut. Funny that they have the same name. I remember the recipe I have being really good, but yours looks tasty and a bit brighter with the fruit.

    • says

      Yes, Courtney, I have seen the chocolate version of Better Than Sex Cake. I’ve been meaning to make that one, too! I’m starting to think that the fruit version is called Sin Cake and the chocolate version is the true Better Than Sex Cake.

  6. Maya says

    “BTS cake (no explanation for the acronym)”

    No explanation for the acronym? Really?? ;) I don’t even like coconut, and this cake looks great!


  1. […] Dessert for two’s adaptation of ‘Better than sex’ cake recipe has been calling me since she posted it over a week ago. This morning, I said, “Enough!…time for cupcakes” and made the cake recipe as cupcakes with a modification on the topping. The topping calls for making a syrup of pineapple and brown sugar which is added warm over warm cake to be absorbed…then a whipped cream frosting with toasted coconut. Instead, I threw my large, unsweetened coconut flakes in the syrup at the last minute and poured that warm, over warm cupcakes and topped with a dollop of my own whipped cream. My own whipped cream…made with a local (Kalispell Kreamery) dairy’s cream, a bit of sugar free almond syrup and cinnamon. […]

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