Wow. Wow is all I can say. Double-u oh double-u. Wow.
I understand why people say your wedding day is the best day of your life.
Your wedding is the best day of your life because it is the only day when everyone you love is in the same room. Your family, his family, all your friends. Everyone you love, all together in the same place. My heart grew 10 times that day. Just before the rehearsal dinner, Brian’s best man asked me if I was ready? and could I believe the day is here? I broke down in an ugly cry. I cried because Brian’s family drove through the blizzard that sacked the midWest to be at our wedding. They drove to be with us. Almost our entire wedding guest list drove or flew to be with us. When I saw them, my heart filled up with gratitude and I couldn’t keep it in any longer.
Stephanie: your gorgeous face and adorable new pixie haircut did me in. New sister-in-law: you readjusted your hectic work schedule in two different states to be there for us. I love you more than ever. And Esther. Oh, I’ve told y’all about Esther before. She came to my bridal suite in the morning and stayed by my side through it all. I became helpless and decided that I couldn’t get my dress on, I couldn’t carry it, and I couldn’t manage to carry my purse. And Esther did it all. With a beautiful smile on her beautiful face. I had a conversation with her husband after the reception, and he told me how happy they were to be married. It made my heart explode. When I overheard one of Brian’s uncles tell my Dad that they fell in love with me the minute they met me, I wiped away a tear. When my new best friend in Kansas told me to go spend time with my family instead of her because I see her every day, I learned what best friends are for. And when new friends from Kansas met old friends from California and hit it off, I grabbed Brian’s arm and said “do you realize how great this day is?”
I have so many more people in my life to say ‘I love you’ to now. And that’s a beautiful thing. Gaining family is the best experience life has to offer. I’m certain of it.
There will never again be another time when we can organize a last minute send-off brunch because all of our family and friends are in the same town. And while that is sad in some respects, the feeling and memory will carry me through the rest of my life. I look forward to holidays with blended family.
Desserts make me happy; a new purse makes me happy; accomplishing things at work makes me happy; cooking makes me happy. But they all pale in comparison to how happy I am now with double the amount of people to love in my life.
- 1 14-oz. can light coconut milk
- 1/2 cup filtered water
- 3-4 tablespoons honey (to your taste)
- 1/2 teaspoon ground cinnamon
- 1/8 teaspoon ground cardamom
- 1/4 teaspoon ground ginger
- pinch of ground black pepper
- 1 heaping tablespoon black tea leaves
- In a small saucepan, combine all ingredients except the tea leaves over medium heat. Whisk vigorously to dissolve all spices. The honey might not dissolve until the coconut milk is sufficiently warm.
- Once simmering, add the tea leaves, cover and remove from the heat. Let stand for 10 minutes.
- Strain the mixture, then divide between two mugs and serve.